Hearing and seeing your baby cry can be heartbreaking. You don’t want her to cry. You want her to be happy. And you want her most of all to be healthy. For all this to happen, she needs to sleep well.
The best thing would be if your child could learn to sleep without frustration or crying at all. All parents want this for their child. Unfortunately, with all children, regardless of what method you decide to use to help them sleep, it is inevitable that they will shed some tears in the process. We are going to explore why.
Children will cry when they are learning to sleep because they do not like change and are protesting because they do not like change. They dislike change period. If you think about it, do you remember what your favorite book was when you were a kid?Remember that you wanted to hear that book over and over again? We wanted to hear it many many times and every night. In fact, we wanted to hear our favorite part of the book even more times than the whole book. Most of us do not like change, even as adults so when we are trying to change our baby’s sleep routine she will cry and protest. They are unable to express themselves with words so they cry to tell us they do not like it.
Second, as our child begins to learn how to sleep however they haven’t yet figured out how to do this, and this makes them frustrated which is understandable. They no longer have their Mom and Dad right by their side to help them get to sleep, and they don’t yet know what to do differently as they have not experienced it but they will eventually.
Interestingly we are born with the inherent ability to to fall asleep however it is considered a learned behavior and yet you can not teach another person, including your child to do it. It will not work to simply say to your child to close their eyes and sleep. Instead your baby has to learn to settle into sleep, just as we all had to. There are children who seem to fall asleep almost like magic with very little effort on the parent’s part. However, everyone is different and unique. Your child just like all children have not learned the essential skill yet which is why you need to take a step back and try not to become anxious, so they have the opportunity to achieve this on their own.
How will she do it? She might move their head from side to side, might kick his legs around a bit, she might grab their favorite lovey or security blankie or even suck their thumb and if she’s a bit older, they might play with their hair.
Each of us has different things we do to soothe ourselves to sleep just like your child will learn as well. They will find the perfect one for themselves. This will be difficult for them if you are standing or sitting right beside them or picking them up as they have no motivation to do so on their own. If you try to ” help them out” they will cry even harder and will not allow them to find their own way.
So parents although you may have some weeks of upset with your little ones where they are crying and upset at bedtime, in the end you are showing them that they can learn how to soothe themselves and fall sleep easily on their own.
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