Sooooo, right from the first day we have the best intentions, starting when buying all the baby thingies. The fancy baby travel systems so we are certain our child is comfortable while being transported around, the top of the line crib that you prepare so lovingly for them, and with the expensive ( usually) but appropriate bed linens. However, what happens when the Prince or Princess refuse to lay down on the beautiful bedding and would rather lay and snuggle up with you in your less than posh bed?
Getting a baby to sleep may be the easy part for you, falling asleep at the drop of a hat but keeping the baby asleep – that may be the hard part. I have two children and one of them decided she wanted to wake up every 50 minutes, like clockwork, and this was around the clock, of course. I researched to find a solution, the solution pointed to, yes co- sleeping. Every book, every article I looked at said – co-sleeping is the answer to you and your babies sleep problems.
We all know babies do well with routines, ideally, they need to learn to self-sooth but some babies, no matter what you do, never will. I remember thinking with my second child, I knew how to do all this baby stuff, since I had already gone through this once and I could deal with the sleeplessness. My first baby had colic, I thought she did but actually realized, thankfully, that I did not have enough breast milk and she was always crying because she was hungry.( I had a thyroid issue), and that is why she did not sleep well. I remember the sleep deprivation was part and parcel of the baby experience but I was not prepared for this second little monkey. There would be no routine with her. She had a fancy bassinet that vibrated and had a mobile and she would not sleep in it- period. She also had a beautiful and comfy crib but again that was not where she wanted to sleep. For the first few weeks she only wanted to sleep in her little vibrating chair or her swing, but it was not longer than 50 minutes- day or night.
Sleep for her, well, that didn’t happen, I was hopeful after we reached the magic six-week milestone, she would sleep but this did not happen after six months, and at that point I figured it would never happen. I was driven to the brink of madness with the lack of sleep so I’m here to tell you Co-Sleeping is the road to a satisfying rest for your baby and you. It can be nerve-racking if your baby is very small but it does get easier.
There are some things to be aware of though:
- Never sleep with a baby on an sofa or armchair as there is a danger of the baby overheating
- never co-sleep with a baby while under the influence of street drugs or alcohol
- Have a look at all the information online as there is a lot of it available if you research
There is a wonderful alternative called the Co- Sleeper for those who are too nervous to having your baby right in the bed with you. Whatever works for you and your baby to get some sleep. If you have a partner they may not want the baby in bed with you. They may be worried they will roll over on them and can not sleep well with you all in the bed. I finally got some sleep by using a Co- Sleeper and we were all happier. This is a new version of the co-sleeper we used and we loved it. This one is also very popular and has great reviews by Moms and Dads.
As she got older, we transitioned her to her own bed but she frequently got up from her own bed during the night and found her way into our room too. Yes it can get quite crowded and sometimes as I mentioned it can impact on your relationship with your other half, but they’re only young for a small while and I’m a sucker for a sweet smile and a leg thrown over me in the middle of the night.
As I said when I begin, we all start out with the best intentions. if your baby sleeps from the start then fantastic. If not, well this is one of the alternatives that in the end may save your sanity.
Did I start out being an advocate of Co-Sleeping? Nope, not at all. But, do I regret it? Not a bit.
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